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Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Wedding Pictures!

Just a few for now ... maybe more later. .

From the honeymoon at Disney here

I hope to write more about our adventures at Disney soon! We had a blast!

Posted by LissaKay on 04/15/09 at 01:43 AM in ~ Happy Crap
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Tuesday, April 07, 2009

The Wedding

The deed has been done. We wed, we honeymooned, and now we are back to Real Life™

Now the real adventure begins!

The wedding itself, after all the stressing, fussing, hair=pulling and worrying I did, went beautifully. This is not to say that it went as planned, or expected ... at all, but in the end, we had a wonderful ceremony, surrounded by our family and friends.

Though we have been married since last summer, having made our Covenant with God, with our closest friends as witnesses, we also wanted to have an official ceremony, for our family and friends, and at the same time, create our civil union with the state ... making it a legal marriage. When we first announced that we were going to have a wedding, I was asked by everyone what kind of wedding did I want. At first, I did not know. I had no clue. I just let God guide me in planning the details, because what I ultimately wanted was a ceremony that would also be our testimony. Rich and I were put together by God Himself, as part of His plan. So our wedding could be nothing less than a celebration of that, for His Glorification.

For my flowers, I chose the dogwood. Not only is it strongly associated with East Tennessee in the spring, there is also the Legend of the Dogwood. This idea came to me as a flash of inspiration. That's just how God works. In the same way, I was led to choose the music for the ceremony, the prayers, blessing and litany, and, of course, my vows.

I was on my own, it seemed though, for my dress. What a riot that became! When I first started looking at dresses online, the very first one I found was it ... the one. But by the time I was able to order it, it was sold out. It came back in stock a couple times, but in the wrong size. It finally came back in, in my size and I ordered it. However, the order got glitched up in transmitting my credit card information to my bank, and the payment was refused. By the time I got that figured out, it was no longer in stock. I literally cried. It was a beautiful dress of ivory silk with embroidery over mesh. And I could not have it. Finally, I ended up choosing four dresses that I ordered to try on, and one that I ultimately chose. This one was almost as beautiful, in blush pink with lace and embroidery over a flared skirt.

Along the way, we encountered several other frustrations and set backs. The worst of which was that my father was unable to be at the wedding. He has been in and out of the hospital since Christmas with complications of myasthenia gravis, and had just been admitted to a rehab center the day before the wedding. While everyone was heartbroken by this development, we faced it with Grace. We also made plans to stop by and visit with him after the wedding, still in our wedding clothes, before hitting the road for our honeymoon. I just trusted that, for whatever reason, this was what God wanted to happen.

The second major crisis was the loss of our minister for the ceremony, mere days before the wedding. We had asked a friend of Rich's boss and best friend, who happens to be a preacher, to officiate several months ago. However, he forgot about it or had the dates mixed up, and made plans to be out of town at a conference that same weekend. To say that I lost it would be a vast understatement. I was quite ready to call the whole thing off at that point. Instead, I got a revelation.

Through all the stress and chaos, I kept thinking that God was convicting me ... us, of something. What, I did not understand. But I knew that we needed to be doing something different, needed to change something. As Rich and I talked it over ... or rather, he talked and I blubbered and sobbed, he said to me that maybe my idea of just eloping that I'd had a few weeks before might not have been such a bad idea. As I was formulating my response to this, that no, we had to have a ceremony ... for our mothers, and for our families, to have a public declaration of our vows, it finally dawned on me; we had lost our focus on the real reason we were having this wedding - for the Glorification of God.

We found another minister, one that was absolutely perfect for us, and for the ceremony we had envisioned. We wanted it to be deeply spiritual, but also fun, and he made us all laugh. We wanted our children to be part of it, and he was all about that. He also needed us as much as we needed him. Seeing God at work in all this has been awesome. We have truly been blessed.

The ceremony was great. My son escorted me, and my daughter was my maid of honor. Two of my sisters in God sang Amazing Grace (the "My Chains are Gone" version, by Chris Tomlin from the movie, Amazing Grace) and they had me in tears. Most of the rest of the music was J.S. Bach, starting with the Brandenburg Concertos as the prelude. I walked to Pachelbel's Canon in D, and we had two prayers to Bach's Air for Suite in D Major and Arioso. There was a bit of a mix up in the recessional, but by that point, it didn't matter. We had been joined as husband and wife before man as well as before God.

Rich's mother and sister arranged the entire reception, food, drinks, decorations, and it was fabulous. One of his daughters made our cakes, and they were beautiful. His nephew's wife took the pictures (which I hope to have soon!), and we were blessed by the presence of not only our family but some very special friends too. The weather, which had been threatening severe thunderstorms all day and ultimately led us to move the ceremony under the carport instead of out on the deck, cooperated at the last minute, the rain held off and finally gave way to the sun for a gorgeous afternoon.

We did make it to my dad's bedside, bringing him food from the reception and a piece of wedding cake too. Then we stopped at my mom's, changed into travel clothes and then hit the road for our honeymoon. We stopped part way there, in Valdosta, Georgia, before continuing to Orlando the next day. We were too exhausted to even think at that point, but very happy and completely content.

I will write about our adventures with Mickey and friends in later posts. Pictures coming soon too!

Posted by LissaKay on 04/07/09 at 11:34 PM in ~ Happy Crap ~ Matters of the Heart
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Saturday, March 28, 2009

Goin’ to the Chapel

Well, not exactly the chapel, but we are gonna get married!

It's late Wedding Eve, and we are still getting things ready. This has been truly a Do-It-Yourself Wedding. We made the invitations (though a few got lost in the mail, dang it!), I made the bouquets and other flower arrangements, we wrote the ceremony and our own vows. Even the cakes, we made ourselves. I did buy my dress, but I considered sewing one for a while ...

All that needs to be done now is packing for the honeymoon. Then tomorrow morning we will have a quick rehearsal and walk-through of the ceremony. We also will make final decorating touches and set up the chairs. At this moment, the weather looks to be very much not good, with thunderstorms in the forecast. We have an alternate plan though, and this will go through.

My dad is not going to make it to the wedding ... he has been having an awful time with myasthenia gravis, and has been hospitalized several times in the last few months. Right now, he is just out of a stay at Patricia Neal Rehab, and went into a nursing home for a couple of weeks for continued rehab work. It also gives my mother some respite. But we are planning to stop by there on our way out of town to bring him cake and we will repeat our vows for him. Of course, the whole thing will be video taped, so he can watch that later.

After that, we will be off for a week in sunny Florida where we are gonna hang with Mickey and crew for a few days, see some shows, and just enjoy not having anyone else we know around us. We may or may not be incommunicado ... we haven't decided.

But now, it's time to finish packing and get some sleep.

Posted by LissaKay on 03/28/09 at 02:27 AM in ~ Happy Crap
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Saturday, March 21, 2009

One Week and Counting

Exactly one week from right now, we will be legally wed and on our way to Disney World!

If I can survive the stress before then ...

Actually, we pretty much have it pulled together now. I did finally find a dress ... I like 2 of the 4 I ordered, and the one I like best is a bit snug, so I have a rush order in for a larger replacement. The other one I will keep for future dressy engagements. The two I did not like will soon be on their way back. The one I will wear is pink, lacy, soft, feminine, romantic ... it reminds me of pink cake frosting. But it's not too frilly or fussy.

I have assembled silk flowers into bouquets, corsages and boutonnieres. We will start making the cake this week. And we have the clothes out and ready to get packed for the honeymoon. As I cast a wary eye on the weather ... again, I see it has changed, again ... from chance of rain and cool, to partly cloudy and cool, to cloudy and warmer, and today it forecast to be rainy and warm. There is still enough time for it to change ... I continue to pray. I want sunny and 70s!

But for now, we're chilling out, spending time with family - including the oldest son who is at home after returning from Iraq last month - so we're having his homecoming party tonight. Time for some food, family and fun.

Posted by LissaKay on 03/21/09 at 06:15 PM in ~ Happy Crap
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Tuesday, March 17, 2009

An interesting thing happened in gun class

Last Saturday, Rich and I took the required class to obtain our handgun carry permits. Isn't that just romantic? Two weeks before our wedding, this is how we spent an entire Saturday. As it turned out, we learned quite a bit more than what was actually taught in the class.

Our instructor kept the class lively and interesting with his many stories relating to guns, people that carry them, people who do stupid things with them, and people who do evil with them. He also told us several interesting things ...

Up until a few months ago, he was teaching maybe one class a month, with 10 to 15 participants. Now he is squeezing in 4 or 5 classes a month, each holds 30 students and usually there is a waiting list. That is just at this one location. He has heard similar from other instructors he knows. Those classes in the past might have 2 or 3 women in them. Our class has 16 women. And I love this: 3 of them are school teachers, one of them close to retirement. There was also a varied range of ages: several of the women had seen at least 5 decades and most were not unfamiliar with handguns, and had been shooting for quite some time. I don't believe there was a single Democrat among us. Given how most of the conversation went that day, if there were, they very wisely kept their own counsel.

We were also reminded of how and why the Revolutionary War started ... it was not about tea, taxes or liberty, but about guns. The British, in an attempt to quell rebellions over tea, taxes and liberty, took to confiscating the colonists' guns and ammunition. It was that action the finally goaded the colonists from passive rebellion to armed insurrection to defend their liberties and the way of life they wished to live.

Our current presidential administration would be wise to reacquaint itself with American history before taking any more steps towards our guns or other freedoms, and We The People would be wise to be ready to defend our liberties as our founding fathers once did, because our current administrations has thus far proven itself to be anything but wise.

First, they came for the guns ...

Anyway, we completed the course with flying colors. Afterward, I tried out the XD 9 sub-compact on the firing range. I felt it had as much kick as the XDm 40 that Rich has, but while it is short, it is very wide. I liked shooting it, and could probably manage purse carry fairly well, but it was kind of bulky. Next time, I am going to try one of the Glock 9s and perhaps a Walther. If you have a recommendation: I am looking for something suitable for purse-carry, semi-auto, with enough stopping power in one shot to bring most any attacker down - a 9mm or a 40 cal that I could reliably handle (I'm only 5'1" ... not too hard to knock me on my butt!) I've heard some rumor of an upcoming XDm 9 Sub-compact, but I haven't been able to verify ... anyone else hear anything?

Posted by LissaKay on 03/17/09 at 01:16 AM in ~ Go Bang Bang
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Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Here Comes the Bride

Or is that Bridezilla?

Some folks (ahem) might agree with the latter being the case.

I am really, really trying to stay calm and relaxed about this whole thing. I am! I specifically planned this thing to be casual, laid back and unstructured so that I could just enjoy the months and weeks beforehand with no worries, no stress, no fuss.

Ha! Ha ha HA!

Instead I am stressed to the max, alternating between snarling and laughing hysterically. I freak out over the littlest thing and will burst into tears for no reason. There have been recent events that have me feeling angry, resentful and hurt ... but I have no right to be that way. So I am angry with myself for reacting like that. I feel like it indicates a weakness of faith. Mostly, I am just overwhelmed because I don't think I have enough time to get everything done and/or do it right.

The biggest thing has been my dress ... I haven't been able to find one. Well, I did, but before I could get it ordered, it sold out. Everything else I looked at after that did not measure up. I finally ordered four dresses, one of them surely will do. None of them particularly thrill me and/or I am concerned about the fit - being 5' 1" makes dresses hard to fit. Being a bit overweight makes it even tougher.

And speaking of overweight, that's been my #2 stress factor. I have been starving on a 1000 - 1200 calorie a day diet and busting my behind working out 3 days a week, and then limping around with sore muscles all the time. I have yet to lose more than 2 pounds (and then I gain back 3), and I am still the same size. I am perplexed, not to mention disgusted and depressed. I have recently changed my work-out routine to less emphasis on aerobics, more on intense strength training and, of course, yoga. There's not much more I can do with the diet, I can't go much lower than 1000 calories a day and I am already focused on lean meats, veggies, fruits and whole grains. This week I started a cleansing routine ... and that is all I have to say about that, lest we stray into TMI territory.

Oh crud ... we just realized we don't have a photographer yet! I hope Rich's nephew's wife can step up for us!

Anyway, the rest of it has worked out OK so far, despite my tendency to freak out. I designed the invitations and Rich got them printed up, and we got them sent out - and better late than never! I have purchased the silk flowers for the bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages and decorations. I know what I want the cake to look like, we have the ceremony written and the music for it as well. I had the reception food planned out but it looks like other family members have taken that over. It's just as well, I don't plan on being there for long because we will want to hit the road as soon as politely possible.

So, you're middle aged, the kids are grown (or nearly so), you've met your best friend and soul mate and now you've gotten married ... what are you going to do next?

We're going to Disney World!

Posted by LissaKay on 03/10/09 at 12:44 AM in ~ Matters of the Heart
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Friday, February 13, 2009

My Senator gets it

A while back, I wrote to my Congress critters to ask that they vote against the stimulus bill. I got the following in return from Senator Bob Corker.

Thank you for contacting my office to share your concerns about the proposed economic stimulus package, the American Recovery and Reinvestment Act. Your input is important to me, and I appreciate the time you took to share your thoughts.

I agree with you the stimulus package introduced in the Senate will have little benefit for our economy and I voted against this bill. I am disappointed that we have chosen to spend nearly $1 trillion and still have not solved the issues that created this economic crisis - credit and housing.

To turn our economic crisis around, I believe our priority should be to address the problems in our credit markets and get banks lending again. Additionally, we need to take steps to improve the challenges in the housing market. Unfortunately, the proposal considered by the Senate would borrow hundreds of billions of dollars and spend this money on government programs, many of which will clearly not help us address the two challenges I mentioned above. Until the housing and credit markets are dealt with in a serious and real way, anything else we do for the economy is just throwing good money after bad.

I know right now our country is experiencing tremendous economic turmoil and people are hurting. My heart goes out to all those who find themselves in financial situations that in many cases are beyond their control. I assure you that the difficulties being faced by Tennesseans during these times of economic uncertainty and hardship are of the utmost concern to me, and my staff and I will be using all the resources and options at our disposal to help in the months ahead.

Thank you again for your letter. I hope you will continue to share your thoughts with me.


Bob Corker
United States Senator

More like him, please!

I am now going to write him a note thanking him for his vote against this atrocity against America, and assure him that he can count on my vote in the future.

Posted by LissaKay on 02/13/09 at 10:59 PM in ~ Politics
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Monday, February 02, 2009

OK, this is it. No really. It is our final answer.

We are not joking, and we will not change our minds. Again. All the speculation, guessing, wondering, and all that is over. Said and done. And we do apologize for all the change, we hope everyone will understand. As for me, I blame Obama. As Commander in Chief, this is his responsibility. So, it's his fault.

March 28. Probably shortly after lunch, like around 1:00.

We shall be wed.

And if we have intimated that you will be invited, make sure we have your address for your invitation. Email or DM it to either of us ... and if you are friends enough to be expecting an invite, you should already have our contact info, yes?

So why blame Obama? Well, it's like this ... Rich's oldest son has been in Iraq since December '07. He was originally due to return home in March. That would have put him on leave in May, which was our original wedding date. However, since the coalition forces have done such a bang up job in restoring security, peace and democracy in Iraq, many of them are coming home early. We first got word of this change last fall, but we still did not know what dates Adam would be on leave. It took this long for his higher ups to let him know exactly when he could come home. We just confirmed the dates within the last week, and now have a firm date for the wedding, when we know Adam can be here. Now, since this massive confusion is due to the Army and Obama is the Commander in Chief, he gets the blame. See? I have learned something in the last 8 years.

We are going to have the wedding out on the deck at Rich's mother's house. Risky to have an outdoor wedding in late March in East Tennessee in a year when we've had weird weather anyway? Why yes indeed! We like to live dangerously! It will be a fairly non-formal deal ... if I can find one I like, I will be in a dress, and Rich in a sport coat and slacks. So, guests can be comfy in dressy casual wear ... like you'd wear to a nice restaurant or party. The reception will be late lunch buffet with cold sandwiches, veggie and fruit platters, pasta salad and other finger foods. I have some ideas about my cake, and the groom's cake has already been planned. It will come as no surprise to anyone that knows us at all.

The ceremony we are planning will be deeply spiritual but also fun. We have a large family, and some really super friends, and we want everyone to be involved! We don't consider this to be the beginning of our marriage ... that began months ago when we first vowed our covenant with each other and God before some of our closest friends and our parents. This is a celebration of our commitment and our new life together.

Now, we just gotta put this lil shindig together in less than two months! Yikes!

Posted by LissaKay on 02/02/09 at 10:27 PM in ~ Matters of the Heart
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Friday, January 02, 2009

What? It’s 2009 already?

My how time flies when you're having fun! It seems like just yesterday we were ringing in 2008. How did we get here so darn fast?

One year ago, life was much different, that's for sure! I was not working, focused on school. Rich and I were entering the "comfortable" phase of our dating life. My kids were making plans for their respective flights from the nest. Rich was expecting his second grandson at any moment, and enjoying the heck out of his 1 year old first grandson. In February, we celebrated the first anniversary of our first date and Valentines Day, which occurred within days of each other. We cuddled our way through the cold winter months, into spring. We went to Wasabi for my birthday in March, and welcomed the warmer days in April. That is also when my darling daughter ventured out on her own, moving to Chattanooga. In May, we experienced some turbulence, but that turned out to be God working on both of us, getting us ready to enter into our new covenant of marriage. June saw the rebirth of our relationship, Rich's birthday and the family trip to the beach. We returned to make final preparations for the wedding of Adam and Sasha in July, which was followed shortly by Rich's formal proposal and again, we vowed our commitment to each other before God, and in front of our friends and family. We repeated this at our official engagement party in August. September, I got the formal offer for my job and enjoyed my last days of being a lazy lay-about, getting up each day at noon ... or later. I started back to work in October - talk about a shock to the system! In November, I finally got my ring and we started our holiday celebrations - our first as a combined family. December just passed in a blur, with kids coming home from all over, tons of activities and events, a house to decorate, meals to plan and presents to buy (mostly online - I loves me some Amazon.com!) And a wonderful holiday it was, even though my dad spent his in the hospital with a severe exacerbation of myasthenia gravis, and me running back and forth to take my non-driving mother to the hospital and back home, while preparing dinner for 20 people. We are planning to wrap up Christmas with them tomorrow, now that dad is home and feeling tons better.

Whew! What a year! But wait! It gets better!

Now that the New Year has rolled by, we are turning to the planning of our wedding, which started out being planned for May, but has now been moved up to March. Yikes! That's less than three months from now! We have to put together a guest list, design and print invitations, choose a back-up location for the wedding - since late March weather is so unpredictable, a wedding on the deck of the lake house almost seems too risky. Rich is all about the honeymoon. When I told him we need to get cracking on this, he sat down and started looking at Disney World and Universal Studio deals and packages. I've got the feeling he thinks that is his only duty in all of this ... heh, he's got another think coming!

I have no idea what kind of dress I want ... color, length, style. Nothing ... I got nothing. I do want to lose some weight though, so I will be getting on a diet plan, probably Nutrisystem, and hitting the gym hard. The wedding itself will be fairly casual ... all I want is some prayers, some vows and a little music with me and him and a preacher man with our family and friends there with us. We might have a cake, and some food, and some music to dance to after. But it won't be a formal procession ... just friends and family hanging out, then a little ceremony, then back to hanging out for a while before we take off. No muss, no fuss.

But once that is all over ... then what? I'm thinking drop from exhaustion!

Posted by LissaKay on 01/02/09 at 11:52 PM in ~ Happy Crap
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Saturday, December 13, 2008

An idea is taking shape

You know how you get these ideas and then they won't go away, and they just keep nagging at you, bouncing around in your head until you just have to DO something about it? Yeah ... this is one of those. I call these "God moments" where I just know that He is directing me to do something. Not long ago, He woke me up at 4:00 in the morning and told me to read the first 6 books of Acts. Then I was led to read Jeremiah 29. It's beginning to make sense ... sort of.

But anyway, this is what's next ... The Fellowship of Christian Bloggers.

Beyond that, I am not sure. Perhaps a group blog? Or a discussion forum? A web site, unaffiliated with any particular church ... affiliated only with the Bible, a place for those of us who believe it is the whole, true and inerrant Word of God. A web site where Christians can share, discuss, pray and enjoy the fellowship of other Christians around the world.

I am convinced that soon we will need each other more than ever, that we need to draw close to each other as we draw close to God. The world is changing, and not necessarily for the better, especially for Christians. More than ever, we need for our voices to be heard, telling the Truth and glorifying Him, supporting each other as we bravely face the future and all that it holds. While these coming challenges may seem daunting, it is also exhilarating and awesome to be a Christian today.

So ... ideas? Format, content, rules, administration, whatever. Tell me in the comments here, or email me: lissakay at gmail. Know a Christian blogger? Send them a link here. God brought you here, let's do all we can to bring Him Glory!

Posted by LissaKay on 12/13/08 at 12:56 AM in ~ Christianity
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