So tired
If I weren't living this life, I would swear this kind of crap only happens in Danielle Steele novels ... or maybe Stephen King. Truly, too bizarre to be real ...My son and his father have finally made contact. It took a rather whacky adventure to get there. I am still shaking my head in disbelief ... totally unreal.
I was talking to my daughter on the phone. She's pissed about the previous posting about this situation. I hope that I was able to make myself clear to her. It's so hard to get through ... she hangs on SO tightly to the anger. It's sad ...
Anyway, I asked to speak to her father. I wanted to let him know that I was willing to do whatever is need to get him and our son back together. But, our son cannot make the first move. It's just too much for him. I had finally got him to agree to let me contact his father for him. I contemplated this with both great hopes and trepidation.
I was again to be disappointed.
Posted by LissaKay on 01/31/05 at 01:46 AM in
A Mother's Courage
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*hug*
That's all I can think of doing right now, because it seems it's what you need the most at the moment.
*HHHHUUUUUUGGGGGG*
That's all I can think of doing right now, because it seems it's what you need the most at the moment.
*HHHHUUUUUUGGGGGG*
Posted by Misu on 01/31 at 10:59 PM
Actually, I do have another thing to say.
The fact that her father had a fight with you on the phone, in her presence (he kept taking and handing the phone back to her) shows what's going on here. He does't make any effort whatsoever to protect the kid, and she's feeding off it. Yeah she's 14, but she's still a kid and sensitive to the attitude her father and stepmother project. She's projecting the same vibes they give off. And it's disgusting that they cannot control their anger long enough to hold it together.
I know they're all reading this, so perhaps the perception from a complete and total stranger will be the rude awakening they've been needing, and will realize what they've been doing, and will take steps to avoid it from happening again in the future. Maybe they'll work on their anger issues. Be adults about it, because even though it's not ok or acceptable for a 14 year old to call her mother a retard and a bitch (especially in her father's presence), it's sort of expected because of the fact the kid is immature. But for a grown-ass man and woman to engage in that kind of behavior... well, it's just embarrassing.
The fact that her father had a fight with you on the phone, in her presence (he kept taking and handing the phone back to her) shows what's going on here. He does't make any effort whatsoever to protect the kid, and she's feeding off it. Yeah she's 14, but she's still a kid and sensitive to the attitude her father and stepmother project. She's projecting the same vibes they give off. And it's disgusting that they cannot control their anger long enough to hold it together.
I know they're all reading this, so perhaps the perception from a complete and total stranger will be the rude awakening they've been needing, and will realize what they've been doing, and will take steps to avoid it from happening again in the future. Maybe they'll work on their anger issues. Be adults about it, because even though it's not ok or acceptable for a 14 year old to call her mother a retard and a bitch (especially in her father's presence), it's sort of expected because of the fact the kid is immature. But for a grown-ass man and woman to engage in that kind of behavior... well, it's just embarrassing.
Posted by Misu on 01/31 at 11:07 PM
It's a shame there's always going to be some mystery people in the past holding the blame, instead of the issues just being dealt with in the present. Those kids are a gift from God. They didn't ask to be born. Their mother and father should be keeping their mind and their bodies as safe as humanly possible, within their power. Anyone running interference and tampering with that mental safety and security, by talking ill about the other parent, is doing those children harm. If they care and that's why they add their opinions, then they wouldn't do it in the children's presence. They wouldn't want those kids to feel an ounce of pain more, then they have to feel already not having their mother and father together anymore. Isn't that enough pain for a child to have to handle? Forget about all the half truths. It's always half truths....because there's always two sides of the story. The only thing that is always true....is those kids are the most important thing and every effort should be made to have them not shedding tears. To know both parents work together because they both love them as seperate entities, even if they don't love each other anymore. What more can one say. Anyone who truly loves those kids...wouldn't want them to feel an ounce of pain. :(
Posted by Violet1966 on 02/01 at 09:38 PM
I am as baffled by this as anyone. I tried to talk to my son's father, to get things set up and make the reunion as easy and pleasant as possible for my son. Instead I am met with nothing but hostility ... he didn't even want to know anything ABOUT his son or how he can help make this easy on him. It IS about our son, isn't it?
So I email him with what I was going to say on the phone. What do I get? MORE criticism! I am "two-faced" and a "liar" ... WTF??? All I am trying to do is what is best for my child! I am trying to work with his father, to be reasonable, polite and cooperative. And this is what I get??
If putting up with this absolute pile of shit from my ex, his sociopathic wife and even the crap from my daughter, was not necessary for the good of both children, I would tell them all to just go fuck themselves ... and the damn horse they rode in on.
So I email him with what I was going to say on the phone. What do I get? MORE criticism! I am "two-faced" and a "liar" ... WTF??? All I am trying to do is what is best for my child! I am trying to work with his father, to be reasonable, polite and cooperative. And this is what I get??
If putting up with this absolute pile of shit from my ex, his sociopathic wife and even the crap from my daughter, was not necessary for the good of both children, I would tell them all to just go fuck themselves ... and the damn horse they rode in on.
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